Mary Kassian has a great little article about the misconceptions about submission at her website. I like Mary a lot and find her articles to be generally quite excellent. It’s worth the read here
Misconception #4: Submission is a right—a husband has the right to demand his wife’s submission.
A husband does not have the right to demand or extract submission from his wife. Submission is HER choice—her responsibility… it is NOT his right!! Not ever. She is to “submit herself”— deciding when and how to submit is her call. In a Christian marriage, the focus is never on rights, but on personal responsibility. It’s his responsibility to be affectionate. It’s her responsibility to be agreeable. The husband’s responsibility is to sacrificially love as Christ loved the Church—not to make his wife submit.
But what if an *apostle* says she should obey, submit, and possibly “lick his boots”? Don’t apostles have trump cards?
an apostle wouldn’t say that, as it is categorically against the gospel message of love, sex, family, and marriage- not which of least also is the fact that marriage is an image of how christ treats his church.
Are you saying that Paul didn’t tell women to obey their husbands? Or just the boots part?